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5 Proven Ways to Defeat Fear

Many men like to give the impression that they have everything under control. But, let’s face it; everyone has something they are afraid of. Whether it is a fear of heights, public speaking, social gatherings, or going to the dentist, fear is a real emotion.

Fear can be debilitating and prevent you from living life to its fullest, both personally and professionally. Fortunately, you can take steps to cope with and overcome situations that make you afraid. The following five proven tips will help you to defeat fear and give you a new lease on life.

Make a List

Fear is a natural, adaptive, and healthy response to perceived risk, but it can also cause irrational feelings of being incompetent or under-qualified to be successful in a new career or role. At its worst, fear can cause paralysis. To overcome feelings of inadequacy, create a list of past accomplishments and qualifications that disprove the fear. Bringing this additional perspective to the situation can help to nullify the “imposter syndrome” that many people are plagued by.

Assess Pros and Cons

Paralyzing fear often results from the human brain’s tendency to focus more on possible undesirable outcomes, and less on the possible favorable ones. Therefore, it can be helpful to deliberately call to mind the potential benefits of your feared action or situation. This exercise can be as simple as creating a list of pros and cons, so that your brain has a concrete, visual reference point for the balancing of the scales, and settle down a bit. Then you’ll be better able to assess rationally if the risk outweighs the benefits you might enjoy by facing your fear.

Create A Support System

It can’t hurt to have cheerleaders in your life—positive people who can encourage you to face fear and push through it. Having people with whom you can discuss your concerns will allow you to get a different perspective on your problem. Knowing that those people will still be there even if things don’t go your way can provide the boost of confidence you need to get out and explore new territory and increase your likelihood of success. If you don’t have people like this in your life right now, it’s worth the effort to find some.

Build Up a Tolerance

Gradually exposing yourself to the thing or situation you’re afraid of can help you extinguish your fear a little at a time. Start with just imagining the feared situation. Practice often, until you’re not activated by it as much, if at all. Then try observing other people in the same situation from a distance. Finally, work your way up to actually engaging in the activity. Even then, start small. If public speaking frightens you, start by practicing raising your hand and asking a question when someone else is speaking.

Envision Success

Either by itself or in connection with the previous exercise, visualizing yourself successfully engaging in your feared activity or situation can work wonders. Pro athletes use visualization all the time: imagining shooting perfect free throws has a measurable effect on basketball players’ success on the court. Practice imagining, as vividly as you can, yourself not just in the situation, but mastering it. Then give it another shot in real life and see if your relationship to it has shifted.

Fearful situations won’t just disappear from your life overnight. Coping with fear is a process. Continue to take small steps and build on each bit of improvement. Some fears may never completely go away, but there’s no reason why you need to be incapacitated by them.

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